7 January 2018

SHOVE YOUR NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS UP YOUR BUM (and then make more)


I’m aware new years resolutions are supposed to be declared and started on the first of January, but I’m also aware that these resolutions we make aren’t always the smartest. Eat healthy. Work out more (‘more’? what the hell is ‘more’? Once ‘more’ than nothing at all? ‘More’ as in twice everyday?). Drink more water (there’s than damn ‘more’ again).

If you’ve set these goals then I first want to say good on you for looking to use the new year as a starting point for self improvement. It’s one of the most important things you can do. But I also just want to say, bullshit.

Ok, so you want to eat healthier. You currently eat 2 pastries for breakfast, McDonald’s for lunch, pizza for dinner and finish it all off with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s for pudding. In order to 'eat healthier’ than this, you could just cut out the last half tub of ice cream and you’re already achieving your goal. But I’m guessing that’s not quite what you meant, right? So how about never eating anything bad and having fruit for breakfast, salad for lunch, fish and veggies for dinner and cutting out pudding all together. Every day. 365 days. No? Not what you’re after either?


What I’m trying to get at is that if there is no actual measurement of your goals, it’s going to be very hard to achieve it. Even if you committed yourself to doing the last healthy eating option and managed to keep it up for 5 months, that one time you give in and have a beer in the summer or a piece of damn birthday cake on you damn birthday because god damn you deserve it, you’ll feel guilty and like you’ve failed (then we all know that from there it goes something like - ‘I’m a failure’, ‘I knew I couldn’t keep up something like this’, ‘fuck it, I’ve failed anyway so will give up and eat whatever.’ *proceeds to eat like I suggested in option one of healthier eating, puts on 4 stone and feels like a potato*).

This may be hard to read as you genuinely believe you can keep up whatever immeasurable goal you have set yourself, but the only reason I feel ok with telling you this is because I’ve done this time and time again. Set goal. Fail goal. Feel miserable. 

The other reason I feel I can say this is because, despite my tried and failed attempts, last year I managed to actually fulfil some of my new years resolutions (I say some as there was one that was pretty impractical and I could never have reached it). My goals for 2017 were as follows:


1. Read 10 books.
2. Save £4000.
3. Declutter everything.
4. End the year feeling happy.


The first two are a good example of measurable goals. Read 10 books is very simple. You find ten books you want to read and you read them. Goal = achieved. I’d also like to add that for you judgmental bookworms reading that thinking ‘oh my god she could only manage 10 books, har har har’, firstly I want to say fuck you and stop being such a bitch. Secondly, 10 books for someone who previously didn’t even enjoy reading magazines or pretty much any kind of writing, is damn good.

The second one is a good example of how, even if your goal can be measured and tracked, you also need to make sure you create a resolution that is actually achievable. I earned no where near enough and had too many outgoings to save anything, let alone that ridiculous amount. From that I learnt to aim towards something actually possible and don’t pick ideas or numbers out of the air like I did. Like £4000? Where the hell did I get that number from?! If it’s saving you want to do, spend time actually working out how much you earn, how much you spend, and how much you can safely afford to save. Once you’ve done that, split the total into 365 days and work out how much you need to save per day. Trying to save £2000 sounds a lot easier if you only have to save a just over a fiver a day.


As for the last two, they are kind of immeasurable ones, but can also be achieved. By ‘declutter everything’, I was referring to a book I had read called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying by Marie Kondo. It’s a book I received for Christmas the year before and after reading it, I knew I needed to do something about the ridiculous amounts of possessions I had. I was one of those people that my friends would go for if they needed anything specific. Stupid amounts of clothes for photoshoots or fancy dress? Go to Alex. Need a tent? Alex has one. How about every piece of kitchen equipment ever invented despite her never actually cooking? Onwards to Alex we go. I could go on but you get the picture. I don’t know so much if it was hoarding (yes it was Alex, just admit you had a problem), but it was something that was becoming increasingly inconvenient and needed to be sorted. So what ‘declutter everything’ actually translated as, was ‘sort out all your possessions in the Marie Kondo way of tidying’ as this is a specific method written about in her book. If sorting out your stuff is something you want to do this year, then I highly recommend her book.

"I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something."
Neil Gaiman

The last, and possibly most important goal, was to end the year happy. Not drunk happy because I’ve had a bottle and a half of prosecco and I’m dancing to Beyonce as the clock strikes midnight. No, I mean proper, deep down, genuinely happy. As it turned out, I had run out of my anti-depressants a week before New Years so wasn’t feeling the best, but I know 100% that if my brain had been at it’s normal levels, I’d have achieved this one too. This is a difficult goal to categorise as, although it can’t really be measured in anything, it will generally give an achieved or not-achieved result. It’s a good goal to have too as it’s something you can almost subconsciously work on throughout the year, doing little things and making little changes to improve your mental health, until at the end of the year you realise how far you’ve come and how much genuine happiness you now feel.


As for my resolutions this year, I want to pay back the money I owe my mum, read 20 books (although I think I will surpass that easily like I did with last year’s 10 books), regularly see a therapist, and a lighthearted but good one, stop putting off replying to messages and respond as soon as I can! As well as these yearly ones, I love doing one extra resolution each month. This month I am focussing on getting all of my tasks done on my forever-to-do list as I call it. It’s all those things that jump from one list to the next, never getting done, and just being pushed further and further down. For me these are things like claim on my insurance for my broken GoPro, alter all the clothes I bought from years ago that weren’t quite right, and edit together all the footage I have from the past two years that never got finished. 

So now go, my New Years cherubs. Throw away that list of resolutions you made a mere 8 days ago and start again with measurable, realistic and positive goals, as well as maybe joining me on this months resolution. If you’re lacking in ideas for monthly goals, I’ve listed a few below to help inspire you and get you going.

1. Volunteer once a week (Race for Life, Age UK phone calls, usher at charity events, help in local charity shops)
2. Reply to all messages as soon as you can
3. Read a book a week
4. Do 20/50/100 squats/press ups/sit ups a day (whatever your ability or exercise of choice)
5. Drink 1 litre of water everyday (2 is recommended but we’re starting reasonable, right?)
6. Meditate for 10 minutes everyday
7. Put aside £25 a week (end of month = £100 saved!)
8. Turn phone off by 9pm every normal night (normal nights being those not out for dinner, drinks, other occasions when you may need your phone)
9.  Ring your parents/grandparents/children/siblings once a week to catch up
10. Take one day off from social media per week

Now go, rejoice and start with a new-year-new-me mindset (even if you like to pretend to the rest of the world that it’s a load of bullshit).

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OUTFIT
shirt, h&m
pinafore, primark
boots, vintage
hat, had since I was a child

PHOTOGRAPHY

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1 comment:

  1. Love this post, I guess resolutions/goals aren't just for the sake of the new year! This outfit is so sick, love your hat :)
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